The one problem I had with Legendary Girl A was that when we had to meet, she was either terribly late or did not show up at all. This was really very irritating to me since I was drawing stuff, meaning I needed her to tell me exactly how she wanted the illustrations drawn. Being told over the phone or text messages was not enough since she often had a lot of requirements in her project that I needed to see to follow. Her late-coming meant I wasted quite a lot of time waiting when I could have been finishing up the project. Other times it meant that I had to re-do some parts since she told me instructions that I found vague, realizing only later how exactly to do the drawing when she explained it in person.
She does realize that her late-coming was an actual problem. Her explanation or excuse, however you choose to interpret it, was that she had a lot of other projects to do and she could not find the ability to manage her time properly such that she got to places on time. She also mentioned that she was causing herself problems since she would end up pushing her project deadlines because of it. I was not really convinced but I never really told her how very annoyed I was with the late-coming thing, though I considered it a lot as she continued with her...habit.
Still, Legendary Girl A was often not around for me to even complain to, so I often ranted to my friend Raz about her late-coming. At some point, when Legendary Girl A was late again and only Raz and I were there, I got pissed so Raz kind of told her over the phone about our situation when he called to ask where she was. A few moments later, she called me and apologized profusely, to which I mentioned the fact that she was late so many times in the past and I got ticked off then too. She continued apologizing, promising to treat me to something later on after the project was over as well as saying that she would not be late any more.
Regardless, I continue to work with her on her project for another week or so, finishing it up. She still gets late, though not as late as before so I guess she kind of upheld her end? Never got that treat from her though >.>
What do you think could I have done better? Should I have said something waaay earlier? Personally perhaps and not through someone else? (Sure, in this case I didnt really tell Raz to do anything but I could have easily stopped him so essentially I told Legendary Girl A through him.) Also, was her reason actually sufficient for being late? I wonder then as I wonder now if things could have been done differently for everyone's benefit.
*P.S. Legendary Girl A is a nod to Lucky Star, though this girl has nothing in common with her, just sounded awesome to use =3*
I believe you are quite patient and kind person. In my opinion, you can point out her fault in a more serious way. Maybe you can inform her that waste other people's time = kill that person partially.
ReplyDeleteBTW, her excuse is not sufficient.
Heh, thanks for reply =D
ReplyDeleteWell, I guess I could have done something earlier...killing people partially through wasting time sounds kind of extreme though O.o I can see where you're coming from tho...hehe..
I think it was really nice of you to do the project for her. It seems that you are putting in more effort for this project than her. Unable to manage her time properly is not a good excuse at all. I am amazed at your patience and tolerance because if it is me I might have ditch her project already!
ReplyDeleteI think you should have told her straight that you did not like her attitude. I also have friends like that but usually telling them won't work. So me and my friends who are almost always punctual will tell these ppl an earlier meeting time. Like for example if we are going to meet at 2 we will tell them to meet at 130. Maybe you might want to try this method and tell me whether it works? :)
Ah..well...you could say I was bored during the holidays...and I liked the job anyway...drawing stuff is fun =D That's probably why I stuck around >.>
DeleteAnd yea, that good idea....now..who to try it on...=3
Hey John! I have to say, I would not have tolerated it right from the beginning! Haha. First and foremost, we need to understand that Legendary Girl A has a bad habit. And this habit is affecting the productivity of the people around her. It is quite fortunate that this happened during your school holidays where you have plenty of time to 'waste' waiting for her. I commend you for displaying patience and compassion by forgiving her mistakes the first few times, but the fact still remains that she has a bad habit which will be carried on with her throughout her life if nice people like you(*winks*) keep overlooking this character trait of hers. I guess you could have had a serious talk with her about her late-coming, but show that you would like to HELP her overcome this issue. Do show empathy, and understanding but at the same time, firmness in your stand that this negative habit have to be worked upon. Only then, will Legendary Girl A learn to break this bad habit of hers!
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